#36: The Power Of Identifying and Changing Your Perceptions

#36: The Power Of Identifying and Changing Your Perceptions



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In today’s episode, I am continuing the conversation about EVOX and self-development. If this is your first time listening to the show, I encourage you to listen to episode 35 so this episode adds more value to you.

Let me wrap up the conversation about my second round of EVOX sessions. This time, I did a total of five sessions. “EVOX uses your voice as the indicator of perception. During an EVOX session, the computer will record and track subtle energetic qualities in your voice. This information is used as part of a process called Perception Reframing.”


I am sharing my personal stories and experiences for a few reasons:

  • Reinforce the idea that our childhood experiences do have a great impact on our lives and that it may take decades to get expressed. Ignoring or suppressing them brings us no healing.
  • Emotions like self-blame, guilt, anger, unworthiness, overwhelm, rigid beliefs, and many others have to power to keep us stuck and sick. Releasing them has the ability to transform us.
  • Inspire you to look at what’s been placed under the rug for the past years and decades.
  • Encourage you to be relentless and do not give up on learning and growing yourself.
  • Do the work to unveil and remove debris out of your way. You deserve to feel fabulous in your own skin, feel in control of your destiny, and lead a fulfilling life. And that my friend is what I want for you!

A few months ago, I figured it was time to examine the reasons I get overwhelmed much easier than those stressful days working in Corporate. This sense of overwhelm has caused me to leave many projects unfinished.

I wonder how much of subconscious negative energy is  ‘you’re not good enough‘ or ‘you don’t have what it takes to pull this off’ or ‘who would care for it?’ or ‘do all this work and stress building it up and you don’t get the results you want’.  Gosh, so many questions…

The key reason for me going after this to resolve it is because I don’t want to leave this world with a list of unfinished dreams or projects that I either didn’t start and started and didn’t finish. I don’t want to miss out on implementing GREAT ideas, I don’t want to let inspiring moments go.

The thing is…I get upset and disappointed at myself when I don’t meet my own expectations. I am an idea generator type of person and putting the check market of completion next to them, even if I did get the results I wanted, excites me—the starting, going through, and completing. Not putting the checkmarks HURTS my soul.

It felt like there was something blocking me inside. Somehow, I have been allowing an invisible creepy monster to take the driver seat of certain areas of my life.


I needed to figure this out and get out of my own way. I don’t deserve to feel like that. Nobody does.

Last episode I mentioned that during my first group of EVOX sessions we identified a great deal of subconscious anger inside. It took some work to shift my perception and moved on.

Needless to say, 5.5 years later, I was really curious to see whether any of that anger had returned. I didn’t think so but lots of ups and downs have happened since.

The practitioner and I agreed that based on my history and what was coming up now, it was a good idea to revisit my perceptions related to my father and mother again.

I was very pleased to see was that anger didn’t show up on my father’s side. However, there was some lingering around mom. What was really telling for me were top imbalances that popped up.

I am going to share the highlights for education and perspective. God knows, something may speak to you, lead you to have an honest chat with yourself, and may lead to taking other steps to resolve them.

When I combined the data of emotions that I went through from the starting point of each session to releasing, for mom and dad, the top three were:

  1. Suppressed Emotional Expression vs. Appropriate Self Expression
  2. Fearful and Overwhelmed vs. Accountability
  3. Unacknowledged vs. Self-Validation

Without releasing what exactly applies to me the most, I am going to share what they mean in general so you get the idea and can use for self-reflection. Let’s get to it, shall we?

Suppressed Emotional Expression vs. Appropriate Self Expression

Fear of confrontation, and an unwillingness to express emotions which may lead to rejection, rob the individual of self-protection. This vulnerability may lead to anger, which is designed to empower self- defense, though the anger may also be suppressed.  These suppressions lead to frustration, general apprehension, anxiety, discouragement, stubbornness, lack of self-approval, vulnerability, a tendency to “fix” others and external situations in an effort to find satisfaction.

Betrayal, abuse, or mistreatment in circumstances where self-defense wasn’t possible or permissible (such as the faults and shortcomings of a parent) may worsen the condition and make forgiveness and letting go difficult.

Stress associated with frustration and apprehension may create problems with the liver, gallbladder, gas,  skin, cancer, stroke, neck and shoulder tension, migraine headaches, and more.

Fearful and Overwhelmed vs. Accountability

When life’s demands feel overwhelming, ones capacity for joy and pleasure may be inhibited. This can lead to overworking and taking life too seriously in an effort to “get ahead” and break free from these stressful external situations.  The individual may be impatient, have a diminished sense of humor, and feel anger from others or from within.  Fear frequently accompanies feelings of overwhelm.

Fear and overwhelm may result from feeling always observed and judged and pressured to grow up and be responsible before developing the necessary skills and maturity in life.  Enduring a harsh upbringing such as frequent punishment may elicit feelings of guilt and further inhibit the capacity to feel joy and pleasure.

Fear and overwhelm may affect the stomach and lower digestive tract, blood sugar issues, tense muscles, and more

Unacknowledged vs. Self-Validation

The unacknowledged individual may experience defensive thoughts due to a heightened and projected awareness of others’ perceptions and judgments (the individual “projects” thoughts out and imagines reading them from others, which make these ideas much more difficult to uproot).

Unacknowledgement  often appears as low self esteem with a lack of self awareness, leaving the individual unable to recognize and value worthy talents and attributes. Even individuals with otherwise healthy self esteem can experience unacknowledgment issues.

Such perceptions commonly originate as a young child learns to cooperate with the reward and punishment model, or as a shield against the perceived risk of standing up for one’s own beliefs, desires, or opinions, such as when dealing with a strong authority figure or bully. Other causes include abusive circumstances, internalizing others’ judgments, and harsh self judgment which makes self recognition intolerable.

Possible physical manifestations are in the area of the eyes, such as weak vision and hypersensitivity to light.

WOW!!! Right?

I can only speak for myself. This stuff makes sense to me!!! I am so committed to getting to bottom of this stuff. I am very committed to self-healing. I love the sense of empowerment this type of personal project brings into my life. I am committed to helping others to do the same. I am here for you, reach out to me at www.BeFabBeYou.com/energy-audit

I don’t believe in coincidence and if you’re listening to this, there is a reason. Take inventory and take action.

Next episode, I will bring ACEs to this convo. ACE stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences. And if you find this content interesting, you will want to listen to the next episode.

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