#42: Where Are You Falling Behind


“You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make him drink.” I bet you’ve heard of that saying, right

Raise your hand if there have been moments in your life that you acted like that stubborn horse. It’s May 29th, 2021. We are one short month of approaching half of the year. It’s short because it seems like months are flying by quicker and quicker. It wasn’t too long ago that most people couldn’t wait for 2020 to end.

Well, 2020 is old news. Here is a question for you…

What are you proud of accomplishing in the first 5 months of the 2021?

Tell me. Tell me. I want to know. I’d love to celebrate them with you too!


I am fired up about this because we all talk about how time flies but we don’t take time to assess what happened and make adjustments.

Some people couldn’t or can’t wait to get back to their busy lives and are relieved the ‘quiet’ days of Covid are gone. Happy bees for getting back to the their old normal of go go go. The auto-pilot state they lived their lives was comfortable to them. Similar to Captain’s Plumb’s 8×8 prison cell story I talked about on episode 41.

Welcome to the Be Fab Be You Made Simple Podcast. This is a place we have raw conversations. I have no problems being provocative. Somebody has to say and I am OK to be one of those coaches. Everything it comes out of my mouth is with love and compassion. That’s because I rarely discuss topics that relate ta lifestyle that I haven’t gone through myself. This stuff is real, folks.

Today’s podcast is the first of a mini-series about habits, consistency, trade-offs, and more.

In 2017, I took John Maxwell’s 15 Laws of Growth online training. Gosh, I loved it and once in a while, I go back to the lessons. Here is one thing he said, not in these exact words, that stuck with me…

If anything in your life is running by itself, that’s because it’s going downhill in one way of another. It’s not growing, it’s flat.

Doesn’t that make so much sense? John likes to remind us that “everything worthwhile is uphill”. I bet that you take time to reflect on your  life accomplishments—not the wins handed to you, you had to make hard choices, trade-offs, and sacrifices.

If you are thinking….Geez, Maria. I don’t have time for this right now. Let me remind you that you have the same 24-hours every single person has. You make the time for what’s important. Just own it.

If you are thinking, I don’t need to hear about this stuff. I am happy living life on auto-pilot, I don’t see any areas I need to grow into. I feel pretty fulfilled emotionally, mentally, physically. Go ahead and skip this episode. That’s awesome for you. You are part of a very small group of people. I know I am not part of that group and I am not sure if I will ever get there. I love learning, growing, and making a difference by sharing my journey with others.

As a health and fitness coach, I get tremendous pleasure when my clients reach their small goals which will lead them to accomplish the bigger goals.

Anyway, let’s start this mini-series by talking about Choosing New Habits for Different Aspects of Your Life

Choosing New Habits for Different Aspects of Your Life

When you are busy creating new habits to improve your life, remember that you can have a new habit for each area of your life. You don’t have to be restricted to just healthy habits or just regular daily habits. There are many different types of habits that will benefit you greatly.

Where are You Falling Behind?

Before creating your first new habit, think of where in your life you are falling behind. This doesn’t mean you are an outright failure, but just an area of your life where you don’t focus as much attention as the other areas of your life. Most people have at least one. This might mean you work hard, but neglect your health. Or you eat very healthy, but you have trouble saving money. Maybe you don’t get enough sleep because you are always distracted at night. You feel you have loads of energy, but you drink several cups of coffee, sugary foods and beverages, you snack all day.

This can tell you what areas need improving first before moving on to other habits.

What do You Complain About the Most?

Another way to figure out where your new habits should start is based on what you tend to complain about.

Think about the last time you complained to someone or yourself about what isn’t going your way, or what isn’t working in your life. Do you complain that you are always late to work? What about the fact that your bills are late or your clothes don’t fit? Are you frustrated because you never have enough time to get everything done? These are good signs of where your habits should start.

Choosing Your New Habits

Remember that even if you come up with a list of new habits to form in your life, you still want to start with just one at a time.

Even if you have 5 small habits all for the same end result, you want to start with just one of them before moving on to the next.

How do you know it is time to develop a new habit? When the last one you created is something you don’t even have to think about anymore. That is when you know you are ready for the next habit.

Everyone has habits each day of their life, even if you don’t realize it. They aren’t always something you constantly think about. It might be your cup of coffee in the morning or the way you drive to work. What you want to do now is create new habits that will further improve your health and your life.



We are approaching a great time of the year to reflect, assess, and adjust our priorities and goals that you established for the year. And if you didn’t do this exercise in the beginning of the year, it’s OK. You can take action RIGHT NOW.

I encourage you to clear space and make time for this exercise—whether it’s a half-year review or the beginning of your plan. You deserve it.

Grab a pen and paper or marker for your whiteboard. Write the answers to the questions above down. And feel free to add whatever else comes to your mind.

Get this ‘stuff’ out of your head. Write them down. Step away for a few hours or a day. Get back to it. Has anything popped up in your mind? Write it down.

You and I must know where we stand before we add, adjust, eliminate, and grow.

I will wrap up today’s episode with another saying by John Maxwell..

Priorities not adjusted overtime become wrong priorities.

If you’ve listened up to this point, let me give you a hint of what’s coming ahead for this mini-series.

We will discuss healthy habits you can start asap, types of habits to improve your life, why do want to create new habits, and much more. Plus, I will give you access to my awesome Habits Checklist eBook.

Let me know if you have questions or comments. Check out the show notes for ways to reach me. Thank you for listening, for leaving us a rating, and for sharing the episode with other awesome people like you.

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