Well, I let my strong work ethic take over and ignored my gut, and read the messages. I went from peace to anger in just a couple of minutes. I was so freaking upset. Do you know when you curse out loud hoping that things will get better? I dropped a few f* bombs out loud in my sunroom. Nobody but me could hear them.
For the next hour, the more messages were exchanged, the angrier I become. More of my time was being wasted. Most importantly, my stress levels were to the roof now.
Why was I so upset?
I felt disrespected and d-valued. Indirectly I was told to suck it up and re-work it. Oh, did I say that these tasks were already outside the scope of the original project? That is, there was no compensation for time and effort except the fact I was helping the project to move on.
Time is money. This concept became exponentially bigger when I became an entrepreneur. I don’t remember attaching much value to my time when I worked in Corporate as a salaried employee.
I realized that unless I pushed a RESET button very quickly, I would have a hard time letting this go.
I thought about strategies, the same ones I recommend my clients to apply to unwind. Things like breathing, meditation, essential oils, taking a bath or warm shower, journaling, do activities that bring joy, and exercise.
I went through that list, one by one. None of the techniques spoke healing to me until I got to exercise—the best free pill yet in existence.
So, in “desperation” to reset my day, mood, anxiety, perspective, and not allow this series of stuff to ZAP my energy for the ENTIRE DAY, I needed to MOVE MY FANNY now and not later in the day. I needed to blow up some steam.
I also knew that a walk was NOT going to it. I also felt like a run or any cardio by itself wasn’t going to be very effective. I needed to engage my brain in a deeper level.
When the stress levels are super high, we need to step it up a notch.
I needed to combine weights and cardio. I needed to be vigorous in some way, little to no break between sets. It needed to be long enough so my brain could detach from negative emotions, enjoy the fresh jolt of endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin that intense movement offers, refocus, and give me a fresh new start.
So here I built a routine that lasted 47:43 minutes:
1 mile run
5 pull-ups (assisted) for a total of 100 reps.
10 DB back rows 20#/arm for a total of 200 reps.
15 squats for a total of 300 reps.
1 mile run
Here is an interesting thing that happened. It took 12-15 minutes for me to let it go. I was in the middle of pull-ups and had a quick chat with myself.
“Why are you still thinking about this? You gotta let it go, Maria? Enough. Maria, there is a reason for all this to have happened. Trust the Universe is doing its thing. Don’t fight it but still do your part. Let it go.”
My friend, that was it. I left it go right there. I was able to focus on sweating tension off. Cheers to movement and mindset! Sometimes, we just need to have a conversation with ourselves.
Here is another thing.
I refuse to let others mess up my day. I get upset with myself if/when I allow that to happen.
Sometimes, these people who cause harm don’t even know how their words and actions are affecting others. They are unaware the consequences of their words and actions.
It is MY responsibility to take charge of my reactions during and post circumstances that are not favorable to me in any shape of form.
It is MY responsibility to manage my reaction so I don’t blow up the situation our of proportions, regret my words and actions, damage relationships, and so much more that is attached to losing our minds.
It’s MY responsibility to do whatever it takes to distress, unwind, and regain control of my emotions. This is part of being a responsibility Chief Health Officer I continue to invite you to become.
I am not saying this is easy. I know that very well. I have come LONG WAYS from a decade ago. The self-improvement process requires hard work.
When things are not doing so well, move my friend. Move with intentionality. Get your heart rate up, engage your muscles, and raise the intensity to the point you must be present with your body!!